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Monday 13 September 2010

Codependency - Addicted to an Addict?: "Codependency - You May Be Addicted to Addiction!
Codependency is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship.



'Codependency is not about a relationship with an addict, it is the absence of relationship with self.'
~Terry Kellogg"
Michael Jackson | What Can We Learn From Michael Jackson’s Death? | Michael Jackson Biography | Michael Jackson Songs Lyric | Michael Jackson News | Michael Jackson Memoir: "With all the media coverage about Michael Jackson’s death, you are reminded of the assorted challenges life throws at us. The a that has me considering a lot relates to the caring of his children. Being a parent myself, I am assured that you should all have a outline for our young kids in box the Lord calls us home before they are entirely grown and receiving caring of themselves.
Now then, how do you hope for for such an event? The initial thing to do is to pick out a couple of shut kin or friends and speak to them about the shortcoming you would similar to them to take if you are no longer able of receiving caring of your children. I say able since demise is not the usually issue. Physical inability needs to be updated in the discussion.
GOD forbid, but is to occurs of a of this inauspicious events, if you have a good laid out plan, our young kids will go on their lives as you would similar to them to. There is sufficient highlight on them already so you must be discard the the theater that is combined when control battles take place."
Jerry Hall Highlights Jagger’s Poker Addiction in Autobiography | Love Nuke: "Jerry Hall former model and wife of Rolling Stones singer Mick Jagger, has revealed her ex-husband’s addiction for poker and women. The book, “My Life in Pictures”, explains how Jagger’s love for poker caused him to nearly destroy his life, and that of his family, and how his addiction for women finally led to the end of their marriage.
Mick Jagger reportedly gambled away the family home, as well as the farm in poker games. Hall reveals that he was so racked by guilt that he tried to commit suicide, however, he was as successful in that department as he was in poker.
“He succeeded only in breaking almost every bone in his body and losing a kidney, leaving Mama with five children to raise, no home and a husband destined to spend a long time in hospital,” said Hall.
“He detonated our entire existence,” she added.
“My Life in Pictures” reveals a love-affair with one of the most high profile singers in the history of music – a relationship that began in 1977 and ended with an annulment in 1999, mainly due to the singer’s problems as a sex cheat.
“Although I loved him and he wore undying love for me, I felt very unsure of him,” writes Hall. “I had weaned him off drugs, but they had been replaced by sex.”
Hall speaks of her dismay when her husband was linked with other girls in gossip columns, although he denied these encounters at first.
It was only in 1990, after model Luciana Gimenz announced that she was pregnant with Jagger’s child, that the relationship finally came to an end.
Jagger and Hall had four children together – Lizzie, Georgia , James and Gabriel."

Tuesday 7 September 2010

Depression, mood swings and irritability - these symptoms are more visible in men when they break up with their girlfriends. The findings of a recent British survey have cleared the myth that young men are stronger when it comes to coping with failed relationships.

"It is a fact that men don't share their feelings with others because their cultural upbringing is like that. They keep it to themselves," Narendra Kinger, clinical psychologist and psychotherapist, told IANS from Mumbai over phone.

"Young men tend to experiment with their relationships a lot and when they fail they struggle to cope and sink into depression," he added.

The report says men in their 20s often lack a shoulder to cry on. If their partner is the only person they confide in, they are more emotionally vulnerable when that is taken away.

TV actor Gaurav Chopra, who broke off with Narayani Shastri, says everyone has their own threshold of pain and tolerance, but admits women have a social circle to help them cope.

"The sense of individuality and freedom among women with the entire female liberation process that has been going on has made them a little more socially equipped, while a man has to always pretend to be the stronger one - and that pressure makes it more depressing to keep it within yourself or discuss it with a friend. You will hear comments about yourself if you do that," says Chopra.

"But women have a social circle to help them out. However, individually speaking, a heartbreak is a heartbreak - what difference does it make whether it's for a man or a woman. It's not gender-based, it is very individual. Everyone has their own threshold of pain and tolerance."

Mohit Aggarwal, 23-year-old CA who broke up with his girlfriend recently, told IANS: "My relationship never lasts for more than six months and whenever I break up, I go into deep depression. As I can't share my feelings about my failed relationships with anyone, it leads to mood swings and even has a bad impact on my professional life. My output goes down."

Prof Melanie Bartley, a sociology professor from University College London who conducted the survey, says that when a relationship goes wrong, it impacts on men's identity and self worth.

"Young women do tend to have wider relationships with friends and family to rely on. Young men don't tend to confide in each other and that can make them feel isolated. Their friendship groups are more competitive than nurturing. They are just as sensitive as women but it's a matter of whether they feel valued," Bartley said in a report.

Agreed TV actor Arjun Bijlani of "Miley Jab Hum Tum" fame: "Men have bigger egos, and because of that they refuse to share the incident with their friends. They feel if they say that they have broken up, their friends would tease them, saying 'Look being a man he is crying for a girl'."

"He would only dare to share it with those who are extremely close to him and he knows that they will understand him."

For women, it's easier to nurse their broken hearts as they end up sharing their depression with friends, but men are more likely to store up their feelings and even suffer low self-esteem, and as a result they often succumb to drinking and drugs.

The tension leads to insomnia, and men often get hooked to sleeping pills.

"If men bottle up their feelings, it has to come out in some form. This is the time when they tend to consume a lot of alcohol and even drugs and vent their anger of a broken relationship," said renowned psychiatrist Sanjay Chugh.

Kinger added: "They tend to look down upon themselves, find faults. They start questioning their behaviour like, 'Where did I go wrong?' and 'How could I have handled it to make it work?"

To help them, psychiatrists often put them through counselling sessions.

"We help them focus on the reason behind failure of their relationship. Was he too possessive? What triggered the frequent fights between the couple and try to instil a positive attitude," said psychologist Kinger.

Chugh said: "We try to explain to them that one broken relationship is not the end of life and they should take it as a learning experience and move on for a better one ahead."

Monday 30 August 2010

A Pole Addict's 12 Step Program: Step 12

A GUIDE TO RE(DIS)COVERY: Step 12

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Step 1: We admitted and submitted to our addiction.
Step 2: We recognized that our addiction has restored our sanity by helping us learn to love ourselves, our bodies and our sensuality.
Step 3: We learned that, although our addiction is a healthy one, we must nurture it slowly. We must take the time to create a unique, creative and safe relationship with the pole.
Step 4: We realized we should carry no shame about our addiction despite the ignorance and misunderstanding of close-minded people outside of our community.
Step 5: We learned not to let fear, insecurity or other people's opinions get in the way of our healthy addiction.
Step 6: We discovered ways to treat the side-effects of our addiction which include bruises, rips, burns and muscle soreness.
Step 7: We realized that there's no room for perfectionism in pole dancing and discovered ways not to a.) become so obsessive to the point we hurt ourselves b.) delay our progress & our goals for fear of failure or c.) become hypersensitive to constructive criticism.
Step 8: We learned how to successfully and effectively "come out of the closet" as a pole addict to friends, family and co-workers.
Step 9: We found ways to embrace the anti-polers, pole-choicers and pro-polers into our lives.
Step 10: We learned to nurture our addiction with great care; making sure we train safely and progressively with a focus on proper bio-mechanics, good technique while adding our own unique style.
Step 11: We learned how our pole addiction has helped us to discover our personal power, our tenacity plus our physical, emotional and artistic fortitude.
Step 12: Now, it's our responsibility to continue practicing and sharing the previous 11 steps with other pole addicts and prospective pole addicts. By doing so, we add to our individual and collective strength as a community. In fact, the power of solidarity is what will continue propelling pole dancing into the mainstream without the need to sacrifice our integrity to our sensual and athletic art-form.
Thank you so much for participating in A Pole Addict's 12 Step Program. Ours truly is an addiction to be proud of. Let's continue growing and thriving as a community; supporting one another as we strive to embrace our individual addictions. Everyone's addiction is different. Everyone's response to addiction is different. Everyone's rate of progress through the 12 Steps is different. As it should be.
Successful businesses must focus on relationship building. What is your strategy for achieving community support and building relationships with current and potential customers?

Providing an atmosphere in your workplace that is positive, caring and supportive of both client and staff is a very important start. The first impression is what someone will remember the most.

You also need to put yourself out there and be accessible for questions, problems and concerns. Do not be afraid of a negative comment — you can always learn from every issue, both good and bad.

It's fun to be a part of a community and take part in all they have to offer. We do quite a few charity events throughout the year and offer free classes. It is a fun way to get people together to offer support for an organization that needs some help.

We listen to what people are saying and work hard to accommodate as much as we can. Liking and loving what you do shines through your personality and attitude — this is what attracts Rochester's support and loyalty

Wednesday 21 July 2010

ADDICTED TO LOVE
Breaking up can be painful, we all know. But now researchers are showing that heartbreak produces many of the same physical symptoms as cocaine withdrawal.

For a study recently published in the Journal of Neurophysiology, researchers scanned the brains of people who had recently been dumped. They found the areas of the brain that were activated were the same as in those who are withdrawing from cocaine.

The study used MRIs to record the brain activity of 15 university-aged women and men who had recently been dumped by their long-term partners and who described themselves as still being "absolutely and very intensely in love."

The participants' brains were scanned as they looked at images of their lost loves. Then each was shown a "neutral" image of a casual acquaintance for comparison purposes.

Researchers found that looking at photos of former partners stimulated several key areas of participants' brains much more than viewing pictures of "neutral" people.

Specifically, the nucleus accumbens and prefrontal cortex (related to intense addiction to cocaine and cigarettes) were activated, as were the ventral tegmental area (related to feelings of romantic love), and the insular cortex and the anterior cingulate (related to physical pain).

Study author and clinical professor of neuroscience at Albert Einstein College of Medicine Dr. Lucy Brown says romantic love can offer the same high as cocaine, and create similar feeling of withdrawal when the reward is withdrawn. But she notes that while romantic love and cocaine can be addictive, it's natural to get addicted to love.

"An interesting perspective is that romantic love is the natural, original addiction. Nature gave us this addiction, and in a sense we need it. It protects us," she told CTV's Canada AM Monday from New York.

She also notes that while breaking an addiction to a romantic love is hard, it can be done.

"You have to let the unconscious processes in your brain help you to heal. Time will change things," she said.

"And we can take a lesson from people who are recovering from cocaine addition and go to support groups: talk to people who are supportive, people who are sympathetic and understand. Talk about it. Think about what was good about the relationship and what was bad about it. And know that nature has given you these symptoms the next time."

Wednesday 14 July 2010

China's sizzling housing market is cooling off | Money & Company | Los Angeles Times: "China’s aggressive new regulations aimed at cooling off the nation’s real estate market have led to the first decline in housing prices in 16 months, government data released Monday showed.
An index of urban residential property prices in 70 mid-to-large-sized cities fell 0.1% in June compared with May, marking the first month-to-month drop since February 2009. Many buyers have been sidelined since the central government increased down payment requirements and tightened mortgage lending in April."

Tuesday 6 July 2010

Euro Weekly News PSOE denounce excessive salary Costa del Sol News The Largest English Language Newspapers in Spain: "main opposition party in Alhaurin de la Torre, the PSOE, has denounced the salary of the Mayor, Joaquin Villanova, as ‘outrageous’ for a municipality of 30,000 inhabitants. The PSOE believes that, irrespective of the party to which the mayor belongs, a salary in excess of 75,000 euros is excessive, particularly for a municipality of such size."

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